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The last little while I’ve been about as antisocial as I get. I mean, I still spent a lot of time around people, and was happy to do so, but I didn’t seek out connections as often or as with as many people as I’m in the habit of doing. I guess I was just feeling a little bit exhausted. There is so much going on, not only in my life, but in everyone around me’s lives too, so its hard to make time for each other. Social interactions beyond some of my closest friends felt like a lot of effort, even with people I’m close with and admire and respect a lot. I guess I was just thinking about that today, and how its okay to have times like that, and that it’s important to me to form friendships that can last through time a part. Actually, in the friend making department, that is sort of my specialty, keeping in touch with people. So sometimes I get hurt feelings when the favour isn’t returned, even though I understand how much time long distance correspondence can take. I mean, I have a couple letters I need to mail right now that have been sitting on my shelf since before valentines day. I would like everyone in my life, from the past and present, that the time we spent together meant something to me, and that I still care about them even as we move on to new cities and new circles of friends. I have met too many fantastic people to be able to nurture relationships with nearly all of them, but that doesn’t change the way I feel about them or about people in general. Anyways, I’m looking forward to Coffee Pub tonight, and spending some time with the people I, uh, actually live with, as well as watching the show  (and participating in it!)

Look what I found in my Drafts folder!

I think there comes a realization in most peoples lives that it isn’t really all that hard to find someone. However even someone fantastically ideal who tells you all the thing you want to hear, isn’t necessarily the one. Often isn’t, even. In fact, that person can be a fantastic friend who has many admirable qualities and yet all of this won’t cause a relationship to form. As Erica Strange put it “friendship is a strange mix of alchemy and circumstance” but I think relationships are even more so. We seem to often fall for people who differ greatly from our idealistic imaginings. People who won’t tell us what we want to hear, who make things more complicated, hard even. Yet, if you feel it, none of that matters. As my friend said yesterday, even the flaws of someone dear to you are spoken of fondly, and seem to dissolve, disintegrate if they are clutched. It is hard for some of us to criticize those we care about. Yet this is my view, and if I’ve learned one important thing from my encounters with love it is this. Humans are both extremely different and extremely similar. While we all tend to yearn for the same things, we express ourselves in a million ways, we communicate in a million ways, our reasons, associations and goals differ greatly. This is the beauty of humanity, the constant battle and balance of diversity and sameness. The oxymoron that is ever being on our planet who both individually and part of a whole make something extremely simple and infinately complex. Ah, love and life.

I just realized

I really miss conferences.

A lot.

I mean school is a lot of work and I’ve been finding some time for artsy stuff lately since I was lacking that last semester, and well physical activity is still not even in the attempted pile, but there are other things I miss too.

I really like school (except this week) and I like the network of friends I’ve built in my residence, through my program, from frosh week, and St. Paul’s but I miss the type of collaboration and projects that resulted from being involved in YAC and CBT. I mean, I really love graphic facilitation, conflict resolution, public speaking, leadership training, and having a group of friends who are into that sort of thing.

My friendships here are mostly built on inside jokes, friendliness and nerdy-ness. Which is great because I have a lot in common in different areas with these friends, mostly things falling in the nerd related spectrum such as BBT and excitement over astrophysics and SEMs, but also occasionally feminism and music and slam poetry.

God I love slam poetry.

So it’s like 1:30 in the morning and I’m not sure if I was getting to a point other than that different types of relationships with different types of people have different types of value that aren’t necessarily comparable and can be equally amazing. Variety is nice. There’s a lot of things I want to do and figuring out priorities is tricky because right now I feel like writing a lot, and in general lately I’ve wanted to do creative things but exams have taken priority (and sleep is taking priority now.)

OH YEAH I DID HAVE A POINT. I think one of the reasons I’m so enthralled by the whole nerdfighter movement and community is because I would like more of those types of connections with people right now. The projects and decreasing world suck and doing things for the sake of awesome and working together + nerdiness ad social awareness and music. It’s just so many things I love and it makes me want to get more involved building bridges with people like that on the internet. I mean, it’s revolutionary and brilliant and so so positive.

Excuse this being unedited.

BED TIME

Whenever someone who knows you disappears, you lose one version of yourself. Yourself as you were seen, as you were judged to be. Lover or enemy, mother or friend, those who know us construct us, and their several knowings slant the different facets of our characters like diamond-cutter’s tools. Each such loss is a step leading to the grave, where all versions blend and end.

Salman Rushdie, The Ground Beneath Her Feet (via liquidnight) Thankyouthankyouthankyou for reminding me one of the reasons I like tumblr so much. It’s so easy to find feelings and thoughts, dreams and fears that are hard to articulate on here, written beautifully and simply.

loveyourchaos:

skeletonize-:(via clavicola)

And this, my friend, is an example of something which creates social currency

Social Currency

Social Currency is defined by the world wide web as information shared which encourages further social encounters. However, I like this blogger’s definition better: “Social Currency is the raw essence of relationships.” Really, saying that you want to create social currency is a fancy way of saying that you want to encourage people to form and build relationships, to interact with one another. The reason it’s worth using this terminology is that people these days, especially business people, tend to think in terms of money and economy, especially when evaluating things. In my opinion, creating the term Social Currency is an attempt to get business people to recognize the the social value of enterprises in order to gain their support. Personally, I just think it’s a cool idea.

Or According to Wikipedia… Social currency is a common term that can be understood as the entirety of actual and potential resources which arise from the presence in social networks and communities, may they be digital or offline. It derives from Pierre Bourdieu’s social capital theory and is about increasing one’s sense of community, granting access to information and knowledge, helping to form one’s identity, and providing status and recognition.