{"id":5056,"date":"2013-08-05T21:38:42","date_gmt":"2013-08-05T21:38:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/?p=5056"},"modified":"2013-08-05T21:38:42","modified_gmt":"2013-08-05T21:38:42","slug":"how-to-talk-to-your-daughter-about-her-body-step","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/?p=5056","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"
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How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don\u2019t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t say anything if she\u2019s lost weight. Don\u2019t say anything if she\u2019s gained weight.<\/p>\n

If you think your daughter\u2019s body looks amazing, don\u2019t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:<\/p>\n

\u201cYou look so healthy!\u201d is a great one.<\/p>\n

Or how about, \u201cyou\u2019re looking so strong.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI can see how happy you are \u2013 you\u2019re glowing.\u201d<\/p>\n

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t comment on other women\u2019s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.<\/p>\n

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don\u2019t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don\u2019t say \u201cI\u2019m not eating carbs right now.\u201d Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.<\/p>\n

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that\u2019s a good thing sometimes.<\/p>\n

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you\u2019ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn\u2019t absolutely in love with.<\/p>\n

Prove to your daughter that women don\u2019t need men to move their furniture.<\/p>\n

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.<\/p>\n

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.<\/p>\n

Pass on your own mom\u2019s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.<\/p>\n

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It\u2019s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don\u2019t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.<\/p>\n

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don\u2019t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works. Don\u2019t say anything if she\u2019s lost weight. Don\u2019t say anything if she\u2019s gained weight. If you think your daughter\u2019s body looks amazing, don\u2019t say that. Here are some things […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"quote","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[2418,3457,3417,346,1399,1076,3455,865,3456,3458,2207],"class_list":["post-5056","post","type-post","status-publish","format-quote","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-body-image","tag-body-positive","tag-daughters","tag-feminism","tag-girls","tag-media","tag-mothers","tag-positive","tag-self-image","tag-self-love","tag-women","post_format-post-format-quote"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5056","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5056"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5056\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5056"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5056"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tmblr.kamilah.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5056"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}