I think there comes a realization in most peoples lives that it isn’t really all that hard to find someone. However even someone fantastically ideal who tells you all the thing you want to hear, isn’t necessarily the one. Often isn’t, even. In fact, that person can be a fantastic friend who has many admirable qualities and yet all of this won’t cause a relationship to form. As Erica Strange put it “friendship is a strange mix of alchemy and circumstance” but I think relationships are even more so. We seem to often fall for people who differ greatly from our idealistic imaginings. People who won’t tell us what we want to hear, who make things more complicated, hard even. Yet, if you feel it, none of that matters. As my friend said yesterday, even the flaws of someone dear to you are spoken of fondly, and seem to dissolve, disintegrate if they are clutched. It is hard for some of us to criticize those we care about. Yet this is my view, and if I’ve learned one important thing from my encounters with love it is this. Humans are both extremely different and extremely similar. While we all tend to yearn for the same things, we express ourselves in a million ways, we communicate in a million ways, our reasons, associations and goals differ greatly. This is the beauty of humanity, the constant battle and balance of diversity and sameness. The oxymoron that is ever being on our planet who both individually and part of a whole make something extremely simple and infinately complex. Ah, love and life.