Monthly Archives: December 2011

My third ordinary superpower comic – a Christmas present for my friend James.

no sadness

“sluts, slut, slutty”


I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOO sick of hearing this word. What a woman chooses to do is her choice. Why are people so bent on how other people spend their time? Are we really to the point of blaming one’s hair colour on their level of ability to make what is CONSIDERED the “right” choice? Apparently if one aspect of your life is revealing clothing and promiscuity than that is what DEFINES you. Yes, many women lead a questionable lifestyle, but it is only questionable when they are doing something mentally and emotionally unhealthy that contributes to an emotional/mental instability – an instability probably at the fault of someone else, like parents or exposure to abuse or sexual exploitation when they were younger. Why must we insist on singling them out? 

I don’t remember ever judging someone about sleeping around, unless I knew it wasn’t something they really wanted and they were my friend. Did I judge a girl for just dating this guy from my high school for a week, JUST for sex? No, I laughed it off, because he wanted to sleep with a blonde and she simply enjoys sex. WHO THE HELL AM I TO JUDGE? They both got what they wanted and everyone heard about it, because they CHOSE to have friends who are blabbermouths. So what….I have heard worse things. I am not going to spend my afternoon analyzing it just so…


because that’s all it really is about. And I hope the people that judge get the satisfaction they need. If not, start justifying your lifestyle for yourself, and find something better to do with your time…

I was just thinking I’d write something along these lines if I didn’t have finals. The way girls talk about one another and themselves is one of the most surprising things I’ve encountered at university. Mostly it just makes me a bit sad that so many perfectly lovely people are conditioned to think that if a girl sleeps with multiple people that decreases her worth. Even more surprising, that girls feel like they have to explain behaviour such as having more than one boyfriend over a period as long as a year, or having lots of friends that are guys, or being in some way romantically or sexual involved with a guy who isn’t there ‘boyfriend.’ None of these behaviours are even remotely ‘slutty’ and yet are often referred to as if they are. There is an overwhelming pressure on girls to only engage in monogamous long term relationships from a young age, which is just ridiculous. It’s okay to be unsure, to try out different relationships, to just have fun. I’m not denying that there are girls who are more comfortable in a devoted and exclusive relationship. There are boys who prefer that as well, and that’s fantastic and lovely and all the rest, but it doesn’t and shouldn’t dis-value other more casual relationships.

In the case that someone is acting in a way you think is unhealthy or is hurting them, the best way to show your concern would be to talk to them about it, in an open and honest way. Throwing accusations around simply isn’t helpful.

I guess the last thing I would like to add is something that’s been on my mind a lot as of late. There is not one way to live, or one set of perfect goals that you should go out seeking to achieve. There are literally billions of ways to live your life, and many of them are beautiful and meaningful and worthwhile. So why not focus on your priorities in stead of judging other people on theirs. After all, if you disagree or are upset or disappointed by what others choose to do why focus on that, when you could be spending time on things that do matter to you and empower you. If their actions are not hurting you, the only other reason I really see for getting involved is if you feel concern for them, in which case refer to the previous paragraph.


Gary Oldman: What I’ve Learned

Actor, 53, Los Angeles

What other people think of me is none of my business.

Acting is living truthfully under imaginary circumstances. An acting teacher told me that.

You choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.

“Fuck ‘em.” Shortest prayer in the world.

A lazy man works twice as hard. My mother told that to me, and now I say it to my kids. If you’re writing an essay, keep it in the lines and in the margins so you don’t have to do it over.

I wanted to play Dracula because I wanted to say: “I’ve crossed oceans of time to find you.” It was worth playing the role just to say that line.

We all look for that other half, that partner. I mean, wouldn’t it be great to say that line to someone and mean it?

There’s 99 percent crap across pretty much everything. And then there’s that one plateau where I want to be.

You ever go into a house, see a light switch, and it’s slightly crooked? Drives me crazy. Crazy.

There are bass players who know when not to play. I don’t know if that can be taught.

Bernie Taupin! My hero growing up! His lyrics are cinematic.

You can make a performance better in the editing, but you can sure tear passion to tatters with the scissors.

What would you do if you were a painter, and you gave your painting over to someone, and then you saw it in an exhibition and they’d cut seven inches off the top of it? And the corner was painted red. We thought it would be better red. But that wouldn’t happen.

I enjoy playing characters where the silence is loud.

The phone call is often the best part of it. Your agent says, “They want you to play Hamlet at the Old Vic.” And you go, “Holy shit! Hamlet at the Old Vic! Wow! God! Fantastic!” Then you hang up and it’s “Fuck, I’m playing Hamlet.”

The lights go down. What do you got?

When you meet someone, you can get something out of him like when you first look at a painting.

I’m almost incapable of lying. I’d be a terrible spy.

New York is London on steroids.

Downtown L. A. looks like they started to build Chicago and then gave up … and let it become a sprawling suburb.

I never moved here. I came here to make a film. I’ve lived in America now for nearly twenty years.

You’re tired? Have a baby, then come back and tell me how tired tired is.

There’s no handbook for parenting. So you walk a very fine line as a parent because you are civilizing these raw things. They will tip the coffee over and finger-paint on the table. At some point, you have to say, “We’re gonna have to clean that up because you don’t paint with coffee on a table.”

You don’t step straight up to the front of the ATM line. You don’t cut in front of people at the ticket desk. You take your turn. You can learn great life lessons from board games.

My kids are my greatest achievement.

They’re proud of what I’ve done, but wonderfully underwhelmed.

I don’t bring the work home. That’s because I do the work up front. I prepare. Once you find the character and take it around the block a few times, the engine will always be warm. You just need to rev it up. You’re not turning the key cold. You can finish a day, leave it at work, go home, and help the kids with their homework.

I never thought I’d see the end of celluloid in my lifetime, but it seems to be one amazing deal away.

By the way, the Harry Potter series is literature, in spite of what some people might say. The way J.K. Rowling worked that world out is quite something.

A few years ago, my mother asked what I’d like for my birthday. I had enough socks, slippers, and ties. So I said: “I don’t know, get me a ukulele.” It kind of fell from the sky into my head. And she got it for me. I started playing it and now my kids are into it. So we’ve gone ukulear in the house.

I don’t pursue things. They come to me. They come through the letter box. People get an idea in their heads. “What about Gary Oldman?”

A director expects you to come in, open your suitcase, and say, “Okay, here’s my stuff, guv’nah.”

There’s only one authentic version of Gary, and I’ve got to really know who that is.

What a fantastic interview. I love this line: ‘Acting is living truthfully under imaginary circumstances. An acting teacher told me that.’ Right now reading about people feeling content and peaceful in their place in life is extremely helpful for reliving my anxiety. The funniest things do the tricks. Certain songs are very helpful, wise words, and others personal experiences.

Fun Things to Look Forward to!


  • Feeling of Accomplishment (studying wise) (hopefully)
  • Bubble Tea!
  • Perhaps Pizza?

Through Exam Period

  • Sushi with friends I haven’t seen in a while (ALL YOU CAN EAT FUN)
  • Maybe Glee and pink lemonade with dinner after Biochem
  • Eating a lot of chocolate, and feeling justified in doing so
  • Lori is going to paint my finger nails like CANDY CANES, how great is that?
  • Making use of some of those pi bucks AT LEAST getting a new book for the plane home

Winter Break

  • Presents! Giving, Getting, Making
  • Secret Craft Projects (for _ _ _ _ and _ _ _ _ _ )
  • Seeing the Fam
  • Cousin!
  • And Bethany!
  • And Cranbrookians! (Grossmans, Jane + friends , Jordo and Dana, whoever else is around)
  • And James + Fam
  • Magic with James and Stephane and Johanna (and Annie and Clyde?)
  • Finally get to play Mad Scientist University again
  • perhaps enamelling?
  • Games night with Juanita 🙂
  • Some relaxation
  • Getting the Tree with Daddy!
  • Nail polish fun

Next term

  • Creative Projects from my creative project list (including but not limited to photo organization and uploads, quote thing, more ordinary superhero comics, random article topics I’ve been saving up, and printing some photos)
  • Girls night with Katie + Sora + Anita + Casey
  • I’ll live next door to Sora and Anita and Casey!
  • More time to visit Renison 🙂
  • Magic with Kelvin, possibly tourny, possibly convince Sean to play
  • Plan to see other friends: Haddie, Max, Ann, Jeff, Laura etc.
  • Rockclimbing in Toronto
  • Go visit JAMES FLYNN!
  • Should probably make some plans with other on campus shads as well 😉
  • Badminton with anyone who’s up for it
  • NRG Marketing <3
  • WIN Marketing <3
  • Lots of Marketing <3
  • Prezi tutorial for froshlings
  • Probably will get to go to WIN seminars as a perk of my job at WIN =D
  • More regular skype calls with Bethany/James/Jane
  • Get cooking and chemistry going again (my attempt to encourage myself to cook by documenting it)
  • More nerdfighterly things
  • Get better at InDesign and Photoshop
  • Perhaps write some letters, or poetry, or maybe the articles for tumblr are enough.
  • More stamp making
  • I will live in an actual house 😀

Okay, now that I am overwhelmed by the amount of fun things I will be trying to fit in the next while I will be off to my studying.